Thursday, July 14, 2005

Personally Speaking

Someone asked Don't you find this blogging a one way street to your personal life? I understand there's a lot of your life missing but I've seen… just today and someone else pointed to this article.

Well, I don’t have a problem sharing some of that information – yes I was born in Baltimore Maryland, lived for a short while in the early 70’s in Pittsburgh Pennsylvania, lived most of my childhood in Bethlehem Pennsylvania until I went to college at the University of Pittsburgh and then moved to Virginia after graduation and with the exception of a year in New Jersey (I got tired of commuting every week 161 miles each way to work!), have been here since.

But, that is all information you can get from the internet.  Sure, you might have to pay $9.95 or something, but you can get all of that (and more probably).  In fact, I got a Christmas card from an asktom reader once, a little startling and surprising since I have an unlisted number and address.

There will be some places I won’t go here though. Things I’m proud of, I’ll talk about (soccer and Megan for example).  Things I would tell a casual acquaintance.  Small talk, opinion.  Absolutely.  But I would also only write that which I would also get up on a stage and project on the big screen and talk about as well. 

I view asktom as sort of a blog (who knew, I was blogging before it was cool).  “Dear Abby” in the newspaper was a blog way before that.  A healthy dose of opinion mixed with a bit of attitude (I have definite ideas on how some things should be done – I think that comes across).

But unlike the examples in that referenced article above – I don’t see this as coming back to “bite me” later.  I have seen some blogs of ‘famous’ people (as in known in the technical community) where they probably cannot say that – as they have retracted more than one article one might consider ill advised to have published in the first place, but I think I’m a bit more reserved that way.  I truly would not write something I would not say to an audience.

I doubt that in the 2016 election, anything I say here will come back at me :)  You’ve probably noticed that you don’t know my political views, what if any religion I might be, if I contribute to charities or not. Those and others are topics I share with close friends (as they are a big long dark hole to fall down into).  Heck, I even avoid online discussions about natural and synthetic keys (too much opinion).

So, I don’t think this is a one way street – I control the traffic see, I only write about what I want to. Someone asked me once to describe me as a kid.  I passed on that (too much information).  Other than to say that I looked a lot different back then than I do now…

 Me in College 1985 Just me

Everything I ever said on the usenet newsgroups going back to 1994 is there, searchable and retrievable (all I can say is, I was perhaps even more competitively passionate back then, if you read some of my postings on the sybase and informix newsgroups).  While I might say something in a toned down voice today, I don’t think I’d take anything back.  That is what the escape key is for!  (How many therapeutic emails I’ve written that never got sent.  Oh, I’ve had some brilliant flames, that never got read by anyone but me). 

If you asked me something too personal in a face to face conversation, I would defer answering.  Same thing holds here.

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19 Comments:

Blogger David Aldridge said....

>> Heck, I even avoid online discussions about natural and synthetic keys (too much opinion).<<

Very wise, if I may say so.

Thu Jul 14, 01:07:00 PM EDT  

Anonymous denni50 said....

right on Tom!

I agree wholeheartedly...you give
as much information as you would
give in any other setting...especially on the net where all you know is 'handle' names and no faces.

Like you I am very reserved,
cautious and (sadly) wary of
all that are not closest to me
personally.

talking about faces...is that YOU?
when you were in throes of adolescence?...wow..you do look
different...especially in the hair
department.

if I may ask a seemingly dumb question? what is...
"natural and synthetic keys"

Thu Jul 14, 01:34:00 PM EDT  

Blogger Thomas Kyte said....

denni50 said...

That is my at one half my current age. 1985 it was. You should have seen my hair when it was long.

The natural vs synthetic keys is an inside joke people passionately involved in the debate will (and one did right above) recognize ;) I saw the title of that thread and said "I'm not touching that with a 100 foot pole". The discussion is losely around "should we factor everything out and use surrogate keys or natural keys". I've been in those discussions and they just go on and on. Sort of the "politics" of the database world.

Thu Jul 14, 01:45:00 PM EDT  

Anonymous Michael Norbert said....

Thanks for the blog about my comment.
Did Oracle ask your permission to put your blog up on otn.oracle.com ie. "how cool is this"? They didn't even use your blog picture. Or is this an example of it goes out on the internet and you don't have a say what happens?

Thu Jul 14, 01:49:00 PM EDT  

Blogger Thomas Kyte said....

Michael Norbert said...
...
Did Oracle ask your permission


They don't have to really -- anyone could link to it. They only link when it benefits them -- for example, I would never expect to be linked to regarding "Nothing technical here" for example (a previous blog)

Thu Jul 14, 02:04:00 PM EDT  

Blogger Pete_S said....

"I'm not touching that with a 100 foot pole".
Sound advice as ever, Tom!

Thu Jul 14, 02:29:00 PM EDT  

Blogger Bill S. said....

[quote]Thomas Kyte said....

denni50 said...

That is my at one half my current age. 1985 it was. You should have seen my hair when it was long.
[/quote]

I like that picture better than mine - can I use it and say it's me? ;-D
At that age, my friends all called me Charlie (seems I bore a striking resemblance to Charles Manson - go figure).

Thu Jul 14, 03:09:00 PM EDT  

Anonymous Tanmoy said....

This comments is not releated to this particular blog. I was just surfing and found this one. Lastly you got some respect from Don's site saying "Oracle Corporation technologist". So you are every where now a days. Oh yeah, forgot to mention, listened your Podcasts, it was cool.

http://www.dba-oracle.com/oracle_news/2005_7_13_oracle_windows_problems.htm

Thu Jul 14, 03:52:00 PM EDT  

Blogger Alberto Dell'Era said....

In retrospect, if Oracle sold Theorems instead of software, would you be happier ?

All other things being equal - same friends, an asktom.cauchy.com ...

Thu Jul 14, 04:28:00 PM EDT  

Blogger Renee said....

OMG! We were just talking about those shirts the other day like the one in your '85 picture. What were we thinking? I'm pretty sure they all said something like "Ha! Foolish American!"

Thu Jul 14, 04:48:00 PM EDT  

Blogger Tim... said....

Tom:

Regarding natural vs synthetic - Chicken :)

Regarding old photo - That's made my day :)

Cheers

Tim...

Thu Jul 14, 05:34:00 PM EDT  

Blogger Thomas Kyte said....

Renee said...
... they all said something like "Ha! Foolish American!"


That made me laugh and remember a story from wearing the shirt (which was one of my favorite all time t-shirts).

Going into the food hall for lunch, the person taking my food plan card looks at my shirt and says

"I bet you that says <...> you in chinese or something"

I said

"Nope, it reads Long Beach Island 84' -- in English thank you very much"

If you click on the thumbnail and see it full size, it is very easy to read :)

Thu Jul 14, 06:51:00 PM EDT  

Blogger Niall said....

Renee
OMG! We were just talking about those shirts the other day like the one in your '85 picture. What were we thinking? I'm pretty sure they all said something like "Ha! Foolish American!"


So do the clothes and hairstyles we are wearing today. Just wait til 2025 and see.

and Tom, as for natural vs synthetic keys - stick to politics, sex and religion. much safer.

Fri Jul 15, 04:31:00 AM EDT  

Anonymous Anonymous said....

Tom,

Probably, this is the best time you remove these pages from asktom

http://asktom.oracle.com/~tkyte/test

http://asktom.oracle.com/~tkyte/alan

Fri Jul 15, 07:27:00 AM EDT  

Blogger John Baughman said....

niall: and Tom, as for natural vs synthetic keys - stick to politics, sex and religion. much safer.

There's enough sex on the internet... I think Tom might leave that one out too... ;)

Best information about someone is the basics. I fully agree about how much information should be given out about oneself. There have been numerous articles out recently about people giving out too much on their blogs not realizing who was or could read it. It's very conceivable that something you say today could come back and haunt you 10-20 years from now. And in some cases, if you want to get into any form of politics or public office this can be a disaster.

I've been pounding (not literally, but darn close) that into my 15 year old's head for the last year. He has the habit of writing it on his blog things we do that make him mad or goes against his budding independent thinking. No matter how angry you get leave the detailed personal stuff at home not across the globe. You can write it in your personal journal, but not on a public one like here.

Now, what you did over a holiday (i.e. BBQ, Disney, etc.) is ok. Just not how often you change your underwear. TMI. Big time TMI.

Your opinion on which database platform to use (woohoo! Oracle, baby!) is ok. Natural or synthetic keys... hmmm...

Fri Jul 15, 11:11:00 AM EDT  

Blogger John Baughman said....

Funny thing... I just finished making the comment "Your opinion on which database platform to use (woohoo! Oracle, baby!) is ok.", then read this article about DB comparisons on askTom:
http://asktom.oracle.com/pls/ask/f?p=4950:8:::::F4950_P8_DISPLAYID:1886476148373

Just had to chuckle at the coincidence. :) And Tom, your responses made me laugh even though were serious in your responses.

Fri Jul 15, 11:26:00 AM EDT  

Blogger R Menon said....

Great pic of your youth!
Lots of hair on the head but
I think I am used to your recent
pics more :)

Hey Tom, completely offtopic
but here is a fun page (turn
on the volume when you click)


http://www.oddtodd.com/index2.html

Sun Jul 17, 11:50:00 AM EDT  

Blogger Robert said....

why is it that the pic of young Tom reminds me of "The Dukes of Hazzard" ? hmm <scratching_head>

Mon Jul 18, 06:31:00 PM EDT  

Anonymous Paul said....

Tom - how do you feel about becoming 'Thomas G. Kyle' on Amazon.co.uk. Apparently he co-authored Beginning Oracle Programming.

Tue Jul 19, 06:12:00 AM EDT  

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