Well, I don’t have a problem sharing some of that information – yes I was born in Baltimore Maryland, lived for a short while in the early 70’s in Pittsburgh Pennsylvania, lived most of my childhood in Bethlehem Pennsylvania until I went to college at the University of Pittsburgh and then moved to Virginia after graduation and with the exception of a year in New Jersey (I got tired of commuting every week 161 miles each way to work!), have been here since.
But, that is all information you can get from the internet. Sure, you might have to pay $9.95 or something, but you can get all of that (and more probably). In fact, I got a Christmas card from an asktom reader once, a little startling and surprising since I have an unlisted number and address.
There will be some places I won’t go here though. Things I’m proud of, I’ll talk about (soccer and Megan for example). Things I would tell a casual acquaintance. Small talk, opinion. Absolutely. But I would also only write that which I would also get up on a stage and project on the big screen and talk about as well.
I view asktom as sort of a blog (who knew, I was blogging before it was cool). “Dear Abby” in the newspaper was a blog way before that. A healthy dose of opinion mixed with a bit of attitude (I have definite ideas on how some things should be done – I think that comes across).
But unlike the examples in that referenced article above – I don’t see this as coming back to “bite me” later. I have seen some blogs of ‘famous’ people (as in known in the technical community) where they probably cannot say that – as they have retracted more than one article one might consider ill advised to have published in the first place, but I think I’m a bit more reserved that way. I truly would not write something I would not say to an audience.
I doubt that in the 2016 election, anything I say here will come back at me :) You’ve probably noticed that you don’t know my political views, what if any religion I might be, if I contribute to charities or not. Those and others are topics I share with close friends (as they are a big long dark hole to fall down into). Heck, I even avoid online discussions about natural and synthetic keys (too much opinion).
So, I don’t think this is a one way street – I control the traffic see, I only write about what I want to. Someone asked me once to describe me as a kid. I passed on that (too much information). Other than to say that I looked a lot different back then than I do now…
Everything I ever said on the usenet newsgroups going back to 1994 is there, searchable and retrievable (all I can say is, I was perhaps even more competitively passionate back then, if you read some of my postings on the sybase and informix newsgroups). While I might say something in a toned down voice today, I don’t think I’d take anything back. That is what the escape key is for! (How many therapeutic emails I’ve written that never got sent. Oh, I’ve had some brilliant flames, that never got read by anyone but me).
If you asked me something too personal in a face to face conversation, I would defer answering. Same thing holds here.